Photo Credits: Ken Christian (Mr Husband)
A few years back I came
across a saying. Probably sent as a forward SMS (I hate forwards! They’re
rarely interesting unlike this one) which goes, “Whenever I find a key to
life’s problems some idiot changes the Lock!”
Funny yet frustrating!
Isn’t it?
We all have gone
through/come across/may bump into this phase, if not often, at least once in
life.
So you have just
breathed a sigh of relief after almost figuring out the solution to your
problems and suddenly, out-of-the-blue, the tables are turned and you find yourself
back to square one. And your immediate reaction often results in blame-game. Am
I right or am I right?
Don’t believe me? Fill
in the gap below:
Whenever I find a key
to my problems __________ changes the lock!
Now, fill the blank
with the person or thing you hold responsible for the changed lock that made
your situation worse than it already was!
Unarguably possible
answers:
- God – the easiest target to blame. Where is God when it hurts? You may ask. Well, He is exactly there where you left him.
- Satan - the devil is messing up with my plans all the time. Ultimate truth; our God is a roaring lion victorious over satan who pretends to be a lion without teeth and nails.
- Luck – poor thing is always on the receiving end in the blame-game where you can endlessly blame and swear without getting a reaction in return.
- Family – How unsupportive they’re! You accuse. We conveniently tend to ignore all the other times they have been there for us.
- Friends – With friends like these who need an enemy! Haven’t we uttered this dramatic line after that bitter feeling of being backstabbed? Besides being carrying, loving and affectionate they’re competitive, jealous and sadist too! (That’s what we convince ourselves to believe)
- Ourselves – There must be something wrong with me! Am I a jinx? Why me? में ने किसी का क्या बिगाड़ा है ? (What wrong have I done to anyone?)
Note: The order may
vary individually.
My personal favourite was
always blaming others; the self-centred, I, never took the blame. (Honest
confession)
I clang to this attitude
for many years finding it a convenient explanation for my troubles. But with
the passage of time I learnt that blaming others and myself for my problems
just lead to pessimism, depression, bitterness which results into lethargy.
We simply sit upon our
problem weeping and wailing.
Three easy steps can
help us through: (Free!! Free!! Free!!)
- Accept: It-is-what-it-is! The better you accept its inevitability the sooner you can start working on it.
- Take charge: If-you-won’t-believe-in-yourself-no-one-will! Detect the mistakes made and try not to repeat them when you attempt the second time.
- Back-up plan: When plan ‘A’ fails plan ‘B’ can come handy. Don’t rely on just one source to your success. Explore other options and keep them ready.
Above everything never
refuse to hope (God has put that instinct in us for a purpose), never lose your
faith (It keeps God on the speed dial mode in your contact list of trouble-shooters)
and never forget to love (This is the only feeling that brings peace of mind)
It’s a process! So next
time, instead of going through the difficulties, try to grow through them.
After a couple of
blaming sessions, caught-unaware-situations, relying-on-God’s-will-than-mine I
finally found the way to take control of my keys and its locks!
“When he opens no one
will shut and when he shuts no one will open.” Isaiah 22:22
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